It seems like every day you are in some sort of pain…
You’ve been to every doctor under the sun—the best of the best… maybe even multiple times. Yet, no one can figure out what is wrong. They keep telling you:
“Nothing is wrong.”
“Your test results came back, and they’re fine.”
“Maybe you have an allergy.”
“Try using this steroid (or that oral medication).”
NOTHING is working, and the pain continues…
You have been through this way too many times to believe that “nothing is wrong.” You are the expert on your own body and know when something is “off.”
The doctors won’t listen to you. They just keep sending you home with another medication. They keep writing you off.
You find temporary relief with medication, baths, and creams. But it only lasts a few days.
The pain has become unbearable, and so has your mind. Your mind is constantly feeling pain.
The uncomfortable just won’t go away. It’s like some sort of infection in your body, but it’s totally different because of pain level.
It’s too uncomfortable to share your story…
… because who talks about women’s vaginal issues? Who wants to be that vulnerable? That is where women’s therapy can help.
Are you sad because you feel “broken” and nervous about how they’ll “fix” you?
Are you anxious to do anything that might cause a flare-up?
Pain is real, and it’s all created in the brain.
Pain is designed to protect you. It helps us survive because it acts as a danger signal, telling us when not to get too close to that hot burner. Pain also acts as a motivator and tells us to take it easy when our tissues are damaged and need rest to heal.
Your brain produces pain in response to all sorts of potential threats. And no matter the threat or symptoms that show up, your brain is always calling the shots, deciding what amount of pain you are in.
Your brain assesses whether you can focus on this pain or not, how afraid you are of the pain, how well-equipped your body is to heal itself, and what it might cost you in life to deal with this pain.
The experience of pain you end up having has a lot to do with how your brain interprets those signals and what that means to you.
To get rid of the nerve pain, you have to treat the brain’s anxieties.
While you’re in pain, physical changes are happening in your body. STRESS is the main one.
The brain has a memory for pain pathways. The more often a certain type of pain is triggered, the easier it becomes for the brain to replicate that experience, regardless of whether there’s a reason to create the pain or not.
When the pain becomes chronic, it starts to creep into your exercise habits and your ability to focus on work, relationships, etc. As this happens, your thoughts and feelings about the pain typically become more frequent, negative, and intense.
It’s tough not to think about the pain all the time.
And your thoughts and attention make the pain worse.
“Your thoughts become your feelings, and your feelings become your actions”… this saying holds true inside your body, too.
It starts with the negative thoughts about the pain—like how long it will last and whether you’ll ever be able to go back to the life you had before. Soon, you’re contemplating losing the ability to do things you once loved or to do simple tasks.
It’s not long before you’re suffering from depression, anxiety, and tension in your social relationships.
But we’re here to help…
We will help you become more aware of what elements in your life might be contributing to your pain.
We’ll utilize “thought logs” where you log your daily routines – everything you are eating/ingesting and using on your body. We’ll also use relaxation techniques and meditation exercises to keep your stress levels under control.
We’ll also use cognitive behavioral therapy to change the way you think about the pain so that your body and mind respond better when you have pain episodes. We will work on challenging your thoughts about illness and then adopting positive ways of coping with it and helping you think healthily.
We’ll teach you how to retrain your brain in women’s therapy.
You’ll learn to accept negative feelings and how to base your choices and actions on your values rather than on negative feelings.
Changing your thinking will take some time. Be patient with yourself as you learn healthy thinking. It may not feel right at first because you are trying out something new. But with daily practice, it will get easier and feel more natural. And it’s something you can start doing immediately.
We will practice stopping to notice thoughts, asking yourself, “Is this thought helpful or unhelpful?” and choosing a new thought to replace the old one.
Therapy isn’t a miracle or an instant fix, but there is hope for recovery with commitment and participation.
It’s time to share your story and start healing.
You deserve to be heard, validated, and supported while you are going through this. We will help you navigate your way through all these difficult feelings and sensations.
We will help you find answers… and give you the skills and space you need to get through your pain—to feel like yourself again (in a new way).
Let’s begin your journey toward relief!
Call us today for an appointment: (248) 962-3329.