Individual Relationship Therapy

You live for the highs in the relationship…

You know… the jubilance and the passion.

It’s an unpredictable relationship, like a rollercoaster.

It’s addicting and leaves you hovering over the edge.

There are highs and lows, but everything about it excites you!

There’s a certain need to the relationship – greediness for the unattainable. There are withdraws, whether they haven’t called you in weeks or a break in the relationship for some time, the back and forth, together vs. apart, and when your phone finally lights up with their name, it’s a fresh injection into your bloodstream.

You keep chasing the high, and you will not stop until you are forced to end the relationship or meet someone else.

Your partner is your best friend, and you can’t rid yourself of the negativity and become accustomed to it. You are too scared to let go, to find yourself again, to be alone. Relationship therapy can help. 

Everyone wants passion.

Someone who will take you higher than you’ve ever been. Someone who takes you along on the rollercoaster ride, where your stomach drops as the adrenaline goes through your veins.

But that passion can change… it can end. You can become so blinded by the passion and slide into the toxic change your relationship has become.

You don’t realize the emotional abuse your partner inflicts because they’re not violent and haven’t physically harmed you.

After the emotional abuse, your partner, does something nice, apologizes, or promises they won’t ever do it again.

You also share a life together: friend groups, a dog, or the same apartment. You’re in too deep to call it quits.

You don’t want to walk away because the familiar is more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Our patterns and routines comfort us and help us through the things we need to get through.

Then there’s the fear of being alone. It’s natural to want a partner, but this has nothing to do with our true happiness.

But, unfortunately, the lows are much more common.

Eventually, you burn out. You take a hit that’s too strong to handle, just like a drug. You can let it pull you down, gasping for air and searching for something in the relationship, so you don’t completely drown.
It’s very dramatic and depressing.

Your partner controls every aspect and decision you make. They’re jealous of anyone you want to spend time with.

It’s exhausting and draining after spending time with them – you are constantly giving effort without getting anything in return.

They also isolate you from your friends and family, manipulating you, expecting you to do what they want ALWAYS.

This no longer feels like a relationship… it’s a trap.

They don’t change, and you’re left feeling sad, angry, and anxious.

Do you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells… scared to say the wrong thing? Maybe you’re constantly second-guessing and doubting yourself, wondering if you’re just too sensitive or overreacting?

Do you find yourself making up excuses for your partner’s poor behavior?

Are the lies so common that you’ve begun (or started a long time ago!) questioning all your partner’s actions?

Are you always trying to make your partner “better” or “fix” the relationship?

Do I deserve this?

When will this stop?

What happens if I just wait a little longer?

The truth is that you’re addicted to your partner… just like a drug.

And, just like a drug, you’re waiting for that next high—for that next rush of endorphins.

And, because it feels so good, you’re putting up with mistreatment and conflict as you wait for that next moment of bliss.

You can’t do without them, and you don’t want to do without them.